Isaiah 40:31 AMP

But those who wait for the Lord [who expect, look for, and hope in Him] shall change and renew their strength and power; they shall lift their wings and mount up [close to God] as eagles [mount up to the sun]; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint or become tired.

Waiting isn’t laziness/procrastination/loafing/etc. Waiting is recharging your batteries. If we look at the our daily verse, we see what is supposed to be happening while we wait. Our strength is renewed, we lift our wings and fly closer to God, we RUN and don’t grow weary, and we walk and don’t faint (become tired). None of this is laziness. It’s all active. When we are waiting on God, He gives us “busy work” in the meantime, not just to keep us out of His way, but to develop us as born again believers in Christ. We serve an active God who works things out in our favor. In this season as I prepare for my bridegroom, I believe that all things are working together for my good because I love God and am called according to His purposes (Romans 8:28 AMP). I’m trusting God to develop me for a man HE has for me. Even though I know God can do anything, waiting is still hard because nature of our flesh wants to “help” (remember Sarai?). It is during this time that we need to sit still and know.


Rating our abilities with sober judgment…..

Romans 12:3 Amplified Bible (AMP)

For by the grace [of God] given to me I say to everyone of you not to think more highly of himself [and of his importance and ability] than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has apportioned to each a degree of faith [and a purpose designed for service].

In this passage, I find it interesting that the writer (possibly Paul the Apostle) mentions God’s grace when warning the Christians to whom this letter is addressed to. He mentions this to let the congregation know he isn’t speaking out his own carnal opinion, but after careful deliberation and prayer. He goes on to warn them about thinking more highly of themselves than they ought. How often do we as human beings let others do this to us. I’ve always said that when others overestimate their importance in my life, God has a tendency to move them from my life without any drama or craziness (usually). I recently left a denomination that seemed to want to do this to me. They seemed to want to take God’s place in my life. As I’ve stayed clear of them, their control over me is decreasing. To the point that I’m regaining more of a sense of self. The rest of this passage refers to HOW we are faith apportioned by God to him (her). So how we’re to view our own abilities isn’t to in accordance with our own opinions of ourselves but God’s view of our abilities. I like to use the example of singers. There varying degrees of singing. From the very powerful to the very soft. Both are powerful and passionate but the distinction is who is glorified with the ability to minister effectively. And the emotional intention of the singer. Are they conveying TRUTH?? This is something to think about with ALL gifts.

Relationships are more than dick and bubble gum….

My godmother used to joke with that many men only have two things to offer a woman, dick and bubble gum and always seem to be out if gum. The dick and bubble man is pretty easy to spot after you develop a keen sense of discernment. They’re the guy who seems to think that dick is the solution to all a woman’s problems. Even if they’re able to help you financially, the help is always accompanied by, you guessed it, dick. Back when I was younger, we used to call these men “breath and britches “men because they seemed to have little more to offer a woman than that . Nothing of any real substance.

The problem with men like this is that when you need them for more than just sex, you can’t find them. They “ghost” you, disappearing when you need them the most revealing their true self to you. The only positive thing about dick and bubble gum men is well, nothing. You have to be into no strings sex yourself and since many women aren’t or at least many of the women who I see posting to social media or have run across in women’s ministry aren’t my advice is if you choose to keep dealing with “Casper” is keep your options open and tighten up on your birth control because if you can’t count on him (and his “disappearing acts” are proof that you can’t), any child you have by him won’t be able to either. I know that SOME MEN change after they get children with a woman, but your life plan doesn’t include single parenthood, I would follow the advice I gave earlier. I know this sounds rough, but it’s meant to provoke about your life plans and how you want your love life to go.

Hoe-ified Pt. 3

Eric Campbell

Jessica Simpson

Teacher Bae

The Princess (My Daughter)

I posted the above pictures in this installment of “Hoe-ified” to illustrate a point about women being slut-shamed over something they can’t do anything about. THEIR ANATOMY OR BODY TYPE.

This type of hoe-ifying goes way deeper than the type of clothing a women wears. It’s really about how certain body types are associated with SEX. More importantly, how MEN respond to women’s dimensions or body type.

Click here to listen. As always, I welcome your opinions on this topic.

Top Reasons Why Women Say a Man’s “Too Nice”: How to Overcome “The Nice Guy”Trap 

Do nice guys really finish last??

Or is that a line that men to “guilt” women into “sympathy sex”?

In this post I list some reasons women give for why they might consider a guy “too nice”. 

I also talk how to overcome the “nice guy” trap/curse and learn how to be more assertive in your approach to women and, really, life.

Hopefully, this recording will put you on the right path toward getting the woman (love) you want. 

Listen and enjoy (click here to listen)

How to Avoid Buying “Shoddy Goods”

Shoddy = Badly made or done. Of inferior quality. 

For the purposes of this post goods=relationships NOT PEOPLE. There’s no such thing as shoddy people, only relationships or situations (and they can be salvaged). 

In this post, I talk about dodging relationship bullets that have the potential to take you into unnecessary drama and messiness. 

NOW this isn’t to be confused with relationship situations that aren’t perfect but still may lead to happy relationships. Listen and enjoy……(click here to listen)

Why Do YOU Think You’re Still Single (asked in a snooty nasty tone)??

In this post, I share some insights about singleness vs marriage and how many times we miss it when we act like marriage is the ideal and that singleness is a curse for not getting relationships right. I hope you enjoy it (click here to listen)